Tuesday, May 29, 2007

One Jar of Mayonnaise and 2 Cups of Coffee


When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day isn't enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favourite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else--the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first--the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked."

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

Don't sweat the small stuff...

but unfortunately most of the time IT IS the small stuff that is our drivers in everyday life :( cruel but sad.

nashaislem said...

coffee..or mint tea!! =D

Anonymous said...

how do you prioritise
and how do you choose
say between studies and marriage
if both appear at the very same time?
which is bigger among the two?

~ponder wonder

Anonymous said...

i tink prioritising has to do with risk taking as well.

Each choice has consequences; and we've gotta ask ourselves which consequence we're more willing to bear. With consequence, comes risk as well. Which many of us don't aniticipate.

studies - quest for knowledge; marriage - companionship. Tough choice i must say. I would feel stuck too. I think there must be a reason behind why both choices are given to you at the same time. I also think that irregardless of he choices presented to us in Life, there is time and space for everything in life - time for studies, time to marry, time to have more fun with friends, time to have less time with friends.
(I'm not making sense am I?) Bottom line is, there is the 'time' for everything in our Life.

But I also suppose, there r instances certain/multiple choices & priorities can travel d same road hand in hand.

(Sidetrack: But then, if you think about it, marriage in itself is a learning journey. Getting married is like embarking on studies on marital and couple-hood & family life. =D)

after d choice is made, with good niat & faith, insyaAllah... tings will be in place.

Have a good cup of coffee, with good company in the midst of pondering...Good Luck! (",)

TheHoopoe said...

Thanks faj for the reply

Anonymous said...

hi faj
thank you very much
now i can tell my friends
who face such tests

i love studying the most
but well who knows
what if someone came to me & propose?
hope that day ain't too close :)

Anonymous said...

Salam,

what if you have no one to have coffee or mint tea with?

:`(

Wassalam.

TheHoopoe said...

There's always me :-)

Anonymous said...

and me! :0)

Anonymous said...

Salam,

SubhanaAllah! The both of you really made my day... You have nooo idea... I've been down, that's all... but all my black crows have flown away now!

Thank you sooo much...

Jazakumullah Khair!

Wassalam.

TheHoopoe said...

Alhamdulillah :-)

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Anonymous said...

we shoUld drink Kopi & mint tea in class, ya? ;o)